Separated for 9mos...did I cheat?

After 6 months of no calls or her not trying, you can only ume she didn't care. You didn't cheat. I understand her reaction, but she needs to calm down and look at it from you point of view. You don't know what is going on, you haven't seen her, and you need to be able to live your life. Plus she left you. According to your story, you did nothing wrong.